Why Holding a Grudge Will Never Get You Anywhere

Playsuit - Hello Molly

I'm sure I'm not alone in saying that at at least one point in my life I have held a bit of a grudge against someone and I'm sure you all know how awful that feeling can be.

I like to think of myself as quite a chill person and not a lot gets to me, but there have been a couple of times in life where someone has done something to really grind my gears. I'm sure you've experienced this at some point too.

I obviously won't be going into details about the times people have wronged me *shakes fist at the air like a medieval king*, but on these rare cases I have gotten so annoyed that everything they've done from that point onward begins to eat into my very soul.

Because when you hold a grudge, it doesn't really do anything. As much as you strongly dislike the person on the receiving end, the likelihood is that they will go on with their life, blissfully unaware of your irritation, which of course proceeds to irritate you even more. Why should this person who has behaved so poorly go on with their life get to experience happiness when you're just sitting, staring at their Facebook photos, seething about it? NOT FAIR.

As I said, this doesn't happen very often for me. Maybe one or two times in my life? But on those occasions I have made myself so frustrated, convincing myself that the other person doesn't 'deserve' to live their life or be happy. But the truth is, the only person I was hurting was myself. Instead of focusing on my own time, my own career and my own problems, I was concerned with someone else's, and who really has time for that?

The best thing to do, as Elsa would say, is let it go. Maybe it's not always possible to forgive someone, or even like them, but taking the energy that you were fueling into holding a grudge and putting it towards something that you're passionate about is such a better thing to do with your time. Like most things in life, it's better to focus on yourself rather than worrying about people who have no real impact on your time.

And if you find that you really can't get rid of that grudge, maybe just blocking them on everything can be a start towards removing them from your life entirely.