Why It's OK To Be A Little Selfish Sometimes

Coat - C/O Chi Chi London | Jeans - Jack Wills | Jumper - Oasis | Shoes - Dune (C/O John Lewis) | Bag - C/O Satchels

On the surface, selflessness seems to be one of the best of traits. Being kind and considerate of others and their feelings is something I've tried to embrace my entire life. It's challenging, but I'd say the majority of the time I think about others, how they're feeling and what would be the best course of action to make sure that they are happy.

But my god it is exhausting.

Don't get me wrong, there is nothing like being generous, kind, courageous. These are all strengths that I look to share with others. But sometimes, just sometimes, you can feel a bit used.

The problem with always thinking of others is that people can often take advantage of you, and as a result, you can feel totally and utterly drained. My main problem is that I normally end up doing things I don't really want to do, just because I'd feel bad saying no. 

Recently, I found myself taking part in something that I just wasn't enjoying anymore. It wasn't for me. But I felt so flipping guilty that I didn't put a stop to it. This was mainly a combination of multiple people telling me that it was "a great opportunity" and "you said you would do it, so you should follow through" that kept me in it. I thought it'd get better. But the honest truth is, I was getting nothing out of it myself. I was continuing to do it for the benefit of other people, so I wouldn't upset others. And it was making me resentful and miserable.

So, I took a breath, and acted selfish.

And I felt bad for about a second before it felt like a huge weight had been lifted. I didn't have to worry about it anymore! I felt like throwing my arms in the air in celebration. It was fabulous.

Sometimes you've just gotta focus on yourself. I tweeted this yesterday and it seemed a lot of you agreed with me. Being a bit selfish sometimes doesn't make you a class A bitch. You have a right to your own happiness and doing what makes you feel good. And if other people don't like it, then maybe they aren't the right people to have in your life anyway. 

In other news, my favourite dress website Chi Chi London do coats and it may be the best thing ever! This beaut one is so cosy and has the biggest sleeves which makes me very happy indeed. I'm finally wearing Winter clothes now and it makes me want to cry slightly, but I must embrace it...x